The Commissioner and His Grandson

We picked up our girls from Columbus on Friday. They’ve been with my mom having summer fun for two weeks. On Saturday, we took a detour home through Eufaula. Saturday’s drive home wasn’t just a route—it was a memory unfolding mile by mile. After lunch with Jennifer’s family in Eufaula, we chose Highway 431 instead of the usual path to Ringgold. That stretch from Seale to Anniston, winding through rural Alabama towns like Seale, Crawford, Opelika, Lafayette, Roanoke, Munford, and Centre, felt like traveling through time. In Centre, near Lake Weiss, we turned back towards north Georgia. 

We even detoured near Anniston to show my daughters Camp Mac—a place that once held my summers as a camper and later as a counselor. Though the camp was prepping for its final 10-Day Term of the summer, and we didn’t stop officially, the roads and signage whispered old stories. My nephew James, now a counselor himself, carries that legacy forward.

But what stirred my heart most on that drive was passing through Russell County—especially near Seale and Crawford, where my grandparents’ farm stood just off Highway 169. Growing up, that stretch of land was my second home. And my grandfather, a farmer and county commissioner for 24 years, was my compass.

He taught me how to drive—starting on dirt roads at age nine. And even after I earned my license, he still corrected my driving with steady commentary from the front passenger seat. Not so much a backseat driver, but always present, always teaching.

On Sundays, we attended Seale United Methodist Church together. A congregation of 20 or 25 on a good day. Most Sundays, I was the only youth—or one of two or three. Yet it felt whole. Sacred in its simplicity.

He farmed cotton and soybeans when I was young—no animals by then, but plenty of work. I remember riding atop the cotton picker, delivering harvests to the cotton gin, and playing in the wagons filled to the brim—always reminded to stay alert so we wouldn’t smother under the weight. Later, when the crops ended, he planted pine trees for future harvest, thinking ahead, always rooted.

There were no electronics in our world back then, but it didn’t matter. We had fun: honest, muddy, imaginative fun. And once a year, he hosted county barbecues at the farm—whole pigs roasted and a family secret recipe for Brunswick stew served to the county workers. During election years, we might have a barbecue as a campaign event, humble and hearty. I can remember even helping him campaign outside the Crawford Volunteer Fire Station and Rainbow Foods (Grocery Store).

I became his driver, too. To the courthouse in Phenix City, to Montgomery, even up Highway 431 to Huntsville for a state county commissioners’ meeting. It was on that same route—now traveled with my wife and daughters—that memories stirred, quiet and bittersweet.

He was born March 9, 1928. I arrived fifty years and six days later. He passed in May 2004, just two months after Jennifer and I got married. He never got to meet our girls, which still aches. They won’t ride cotton wagons. They won’t sit beside him at the tiny church pew in Seale. They won’t hear his voice from the passenger seat reminding them when to brake.

But they carry him anyway. In my stories, in stories shared by my mom. In the routes I choose. In the grit and grace he taught me.

In Memory:

This story is dedicated to my grandfather, Claude Parkman, Russell County Commissioner from 1972 to 1996, farmer, mentor, and passenger-seat coach. He taught me how to drive, how to campaign, and how to listen to the land.

Though he never met his great-granddaughters, I carry him with me every time we pass through Seale, turn onto Highway 169, or find ourselves drifting down the same stretch of 431 we once rode together. His story lives on in the roads we travel, the work we do, and the family we build.

An article from April 1993 in the “Alabama Extra” section of the Columbus, GA newspaper.

Seale United Methodist Church. I took this picture in December, 2014.

The Day We Almost Chose:  A Reflection on July 4th, History, and the Hope for Unity

This year, I’ll be spending the Fourth of July with my wife and our best friends. There may be fireworks. There will be laughter. And there will be a quiet moment—maybe just for me—when I pause and think about what this day really means.

I’ve always loved history. I’m not a teacher yet, but I hope to be. I want to help students see that history isn’t just about dates and battles—it’s about the choices that shape our past. And one of the most important choices in American history happened not on July 4, but on July 2.

That was the day, in 1776, when the Continental Congress voted for independence. John Adams believed July 2 would be remembered as the great American holiday. He imagined future generations celebrating with “pomp and parade… bonfires and illuminations.” He was only off by two days. On July 4, Congress approved the final wording of the Declaration of Independence, and that date became etched into our national memory.

But I keep coming back to July 2. The vote. The decision. The moment we said yes to something bold and unfinished.

The Declaration of Independence is a beautiful document. It speaks of unalienable rights—life, liberty, the pursuit of happiness. It claims that all men are created equal. But from the beginning, those words were more aspiration than reality. Enslaved people remained in chains. Women were excluded. Indigenous nations were erased from the vision of the republic.

One of the most powerful reflections came from Frederick Douglass, who delivered a speech on July 5, 1852, in Rochester, New York, titled “What to the Slave Is the Fourth of July?” Speaking to a crowd gathered by the Rochester Ladies’ Anti-Slavery Society, Douglass honored the courage of the Founders—but then turned to the painful contradiction at the heart of the celebration:

“This Fourth of July is yours, not mine. You may rejoice, I must mourn.”

His words weren’t meant to divide—they were meant to awaken. To remind the nation that liberty, if it is to mean anything, must be for everyone.

This year, I feel this tension more than ever. Because of my past cancer, I can’t enjoy the grilled foods I used to love. My body reminds me every day that freedom—true freedom—is fragile. Yet, I still believe in the promise of this country. I still believe in the power of memory, of reflection, and of choosing hope.

I’m also deeply grateful for those who’ve defended that promise—our veterans, our active-duty service members, and those who serve even when the cost is high. This year, my thoughts are especially with the soldiers who are being asked to leave the military, some unwillingly, not because of their performance or dedication, but because of who they are. Many of them have served with honor, deployed overseas, and led with courage. Their sacrifice, like that of all who wear the uniform, deserves to be remembered.

I know we’re a divided nation. We’ve been divided before. It’s often said—perhaps more myth than math—that only a third of colonists supported independence in 1776. Whether or not that’s accurate, it reminds us that America has always been a nation of debate, disagreement, and difficult choices. The Civil War, the Great Depression, the Civil Rights Movement—each was a reckoning. Each forced us to ask: Who are we? And who do we want to be?

Unity, when it has come, has often been forged in crisis. But what if we didn’t wait for crisis? What if we chose unity—not uniformity, but shared purpose—on ordinary days, too?

What if we remembered July 2 as the day we chose independence, and July 4 as the day we committed to its ideals?

What if we saw this holiday not just as a celebration, but as a challenge?

“We hold these truths to be self-evident…”

Are they? For everyone?

I write this not to lecture, but to wonder. To hope. To remember that democracy isn’t a finished product. It’s a draft. A living document. A promise we keep revising.

This July 4, I’ll be celebrating. I’ll be surrounded by people I love. I’ll be thinking about the stories we tell—and the ones we’re still writing.

Because I love this country enough to ask more of it. And I believe the story of America isn’t over yet.

Did You Know? – The Continental Congress voted for independence on July 2, 1776. – The engrossed copy of the Declaration—the one now in the National Archives—was mainly signed on August 2, 1776. – Three U.S. presidents and Founding Fathers—John Adams, Thomas Jefferson, and James Monroe—died on July 4. – Calvin Coolidge is the only U.S. president born on the Fourth of July.

Your Turn: What does independence mean to you this year? What truths do you still hope we’ll hold as self-evident? I’d love to hear your reflections, feel free to share in the comments or reach out directly.

Sources:

John Trumbull’s 1819 painting, Declaration of Independence, depicts the five-man drafting committee of the Declaration of Independence presenting their work to the Second Continental Congress.

From Lenape to Borderlands: What if We Welcomed Instead of Withheld?

June 23, 1683. It might’ve passed unnoticed—just a line on my “This Day in History” calendar, a tiny footnote in the long arc of American history. But it caught my eye this morning: William Penn signs a treaty of friendship with the Lenape people. I didn’t expect it to stay with me—but it did. Like a tug I couldn’t quite shake, asking me to sit with it, to listen.

During an era when conquest defined colonization, Penn’s treaty stood out. He encountered the Lenape—a Native American group who had lived for generations in what’s now the mid-Atlantic—not with weapons in hand but with an open hand. Legend says they gathered beneath a large elm tree, promising to live “in love and peace as long as the rivers run and the sun shines.” It wasn’t a perfect deal, and history would later question many such promises—but still, the spirit of that moment remains: the hope for shared land, for welcoming without domination.

And I can’t help but compare that with what we see today—especially at our own borders. Recently, we’ve seen families separated, asylum-seekers detained, and the conversation around immigration turn more hostile, suspicious, and exclusionary. We build walls instead of welcoming tables. We enforce barriers instead of offering help.

Somewhere along the southern border, a child curls up on a bench in a detention center, clutching the last phone number she remembers. Her mother, held elsewhere, prays someone will listen. 

Her story won’t make the calendar, but maybe it should.

What if we remembered 1683—not as a relic, but as a roadmap? What if the story of a Quaker leader and a Lenape council inspired us to greet today’s immigrant not with fear, but with friendship?

We know immigration is complicated—economically, politically, practically. But it’s also deeply human. I don’t know their names or their stories, but I believe they matter. I believe their hopes reflect the same hopes I have for my own family: safety, dignity, and the chance to build something better.

And if we claim to be a nation grounded in liberty, justice, and faith, then maybe our approach should reflect that—not perfectly, but intentionally.

Scripture reminds us: “Love the foreigner, for you were foreigners in the land of Egypt” (Deut. 10:19). We have all been outsiders at one time—whether in ancient deserts, new towns, or unfamiliar seasons of life. And those of us with faith woven into our identity are repeatedly called to extend the kind of welcome we would hope to receive.

I don’t think William Penn got everything right. None of us do. But I believe he understood something we still find difficult to grasp: peace isn’t passive. It’s chosen. It’s built. It’s shared, again and again.

Today, there are no grand elm trees symbolizing new promises among people. But the need still exists. Perhaps our new treaties don’t require parchment and signatures—they need neighbors, churches, book clubs, town halls. Maybe they need us.

Maybe they start by showing up at a community meal, calling our representatives, offering shelter, listening first, or teaching our children to see immigrants not as strangers but as future neighbors.

Maybe they start with a simple question: What would love do here?

That’s what I took away from the calendar today. A quiet reminder that we’ve been better before. And with enough courage, we can be better again.

The Treaty of Penn with the Indians, a portrait by Benjamin West completed in 1772.